I’m a little late posting this, but maybe it can still help someone else out there. Shelly Lenzmeier was the special speaker at IMOM (IMOMS of NE OK) a couple of Thursdays ago and these are my notes published with her permission
To the acronym PEACE.
Plan Time For Yourself. Don’t skp date night, your special cup of tea, long shower, etc.
Express Your Needs. (and feelings). Have a couple safe friends to talk things through. Stuffed anger and resentment weakens the immune system.
Ask for Help. We’d rather be martyrs than ask for help or delegate. Maybe it’s because we’re too controlling? Don’t be addicted to praise and try to up the anty each year. (If something is wonderful one year, you don’t have to make it bigger and better the next to be more wonderful).
Cut Out What You Don’t Really Enjoy. Ax what you dread and do what you love. Sounds simple! Focus on your family values and use your time to reflect the true meaning of Christmas. Don’t feel guilty about saying no.
Enjoy the “Living” That Happens Each Day Between the Events. Look forward to playing with your kids. Use humor.
When I first copied these notes, I wasn’t feeling very peaceful! I’ve put some in to practice. For “C” I decided we didn’t really have to make gingerbread houses. Even though it was something I would have enjoyed, I was really stressing over gathering the supplies and fitting it in with everything else. I asked the boys what was most meaningful to them and what they remembered most at Christmas, and gingerbread wasn’t on the list! Holly wreath cookies were so I’m still going to make time for that. For “A” I am going to take hubby’s advice and let M & L wrap their cousin’s gifts. I said “But I want to do it!” Hubby encouraged me to delegate so I am going to give a quick gift wrapping lesson and be okay that there aren’t perfect creases on the gifts.
A side note: L asked “How much?” Meaning how much would he get paid to wrap (A BIG ZERO!) I told him I would only charge him $5 for the gift wrapping lesson and he asked if he could have it for free.